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5 Myths About Intercourse That Can Keep Women From Enjoying Physical Intimacy With Their Partner

5 Myths About Intercourse That Can Keep Women From Enjoying Physical Intimacy With Their Partner

When it comes to intercourse, both the men and the women have to enjoy it for it to be rewarding, especially in a relationship.

There are various factors that make a healthy relationship. The balance between having a strong emotional, mental, and physical bond is essential to ensuring both partners are getting what they need from one another. So if any one of these is not being satisfied, it can lead to numerous issues in the relationship. In some cases, it could be the physical relationship that needs to be attended to. In other cases, it might be difficult for some women to vocalize their physical needs and, as a result, sexual intimacy with their partner might not be as fulfilling. In fact, these women who aren't comfortable talking about what they want might be falling prey to various myths propagated by the media. It could even be keeping you from having a truly rewarding intimate connection with their partner.

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Here are some of those myths that need to be busted for you to have better intimacy with your partner. 

Myth #1: There is no intimacy if you don't orgasm.

Physical intimacy isn't just sexual intercourse and climaxes. It's the small touches, the hugs, the kisses, the massages, and the various stimulations such as oral and manual that truly make a sexual experience more gratifying, especially with your loved one. Moushumi Ghose, a sex therapist and author of Classic Sex Positions Reinvented told HuffPost, "Sex is talking dirty, reading erotica, watching pornography together, role play and sharing fantasies. Broaden your concept of sex, lessen your pressure and you’ll increase your enjoyment and pleasure.” Moments like these can help liven things up in the bedroom. 

Myth #2: It's worth faking it to avoid hurting your partner's feelings.

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You might be one of those women who fake their pleasure so that their partner's feelings are hurt. However, according to Amanda Luterman, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sexuality, faking orgasms is a kind of lying. And it might actually do more harm than good in the long term to both of you. Not only will your partner feel betrayed and engage in self-doubt once they find out, but you are also denying yourself a good time that can start with NOW rather than waiting for some day in the future that may never come unless you are honest with your partner about what you want.

Myth #3: All women have orgasms only through penetration.

Don't believe the movies that show women moaning like they are possessed and climaxing after a few pushes. Reality is far from this as you would already know. According to a study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, almost 37% of women said that they can't orgasm unless there were some other kinds of stimulation. Additionally, Kim Wallen, professor of behavioral neuroendocrinology at Emory University, told ABC News that at least 75% of women don't achieve an orgasm through penetration alone. Communicate with your partner regarding what turns you on and more importantly what turns you off. The more you communicate, the better it gets. And trust us, the men who really care about you will want to know from you how they can give you more pleasure. Only those with fragile male egos will feel hurt that they need to learn from you. And those are the guys you need to reconsider because if he feels his pride is dipping just because he needs to be told what to do, he clearly is focusing more on you.

Myth #4: You have to be attractive to genuinely enjoy sex.

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Another thing you shouldn't believe apart from movies is the adult entertainment industry. It can set unrealistic standards not just on the act and performance but also on body image. You might feel you are not perfect compared to the actors in those videos who have worked to retain a certain body shape and practice the act of enjoying sexual acts that is performed in front of a professional crew. To break the biggest myth of all, men do NOT care about the flaws your brain seems to worry about. The more you relax and enjoy, the more excited he will be. Diana Wiley, a marriage and family therapist and sex therapist in Seattle, told HuffPost, "Typically, men don’t notice a woman’s physical ‘flaws.’ All they think is, ‘Oh my God, a naked woman is near me!’ I’ve suggested to my female clients that no matter what they look like, if they love their body, men will, too. This may require cultivating an appreciation for her uniqueness. When she can start to appreciate her imperfections as endearing distinctions, she will have begun to love herself in a way that allows her to love others.” 

Myth #5: Masturbation can ruin your orgasms with a partner.

This myth is probably the reason why a lot of women might not be able to figure out where their pleasure spots are. But it's the exact opposite. Holly Richmond, a somatic psychologist and certified sex therapist, told Allure that knowing how to pleasure yourself and sharing that information with your partner can help them give you better pleasure. "The more orgasms you have, the better you’re going to know how to get there, the more you’re going to want them, and the more you understand yourself," she said.

Sexual intercourse and physical intimacy with a partner isn't always what a relationship requires but for those to whom it does matter, believing in such myths can cause more problems between you and your partner. Every woman's body is different and the only one who knows it best is you, especially when it comes to intercourse. So don't hesitate to be vocal about what you need both outside the bedroom and inside. 

References:

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/sex-myths_n_58ecf99ee4b0ca64d91985f1

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2017.1346530

https://abcnews.go.com/Health/ReproductiveHealth/sex-study-female-orgasm-eludes-majority-women/story?id=8485289

https://www.allure.com/story/female-orgasm-myths

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