Even after suffering the pain of losing all his children, he wants to ensure that other parents don't go through what he's going through.
Losing someone you love dearly isn't easy. However, losing the child you raised with love and warmth can break you. So when you lose all of them at once... it shatters your soul and pulls you into a void of inescapable pain. For Andrew McGinley, coming home to his three kids was always exciting. Instead, when he entered his home, he found all of them completely still and he knew that they were gone, reported BBC.
The Dublin, Ireland resident couldn't help but break down completely as the single hearse carrying his babies, 9-year-old Connor, 7-year-old Darragh, and 3-year-old Carla, arrived at the Church of The Holy Family. It wasn't supposed to be like this. He was supposed to be tickling and playing with them or hearing them talk about their day at school. And here he was, touching one of their three coffins, realizing that this was the closest he was ever going to be to them ever again.
To honor them, he wrote a heartbreaking eulogy. He said, "We often misuse words. When Ireland would lose a match, I used to say I was heartbroken. I now know what that really means. We, as a family, are heartbroken. It will only be with your help, support, and friendship that we will be able to patch our hearts together in some way but we will still be forever heartbroken. Conor, Darragh, and Carla. I love you, I love you, I love you."
He mentioned the things that gave his children a reason to smile and thanked the people behind it, as per The Sun. He said, "You gave them creativity but most of all you gave us joy together as a family. Please understand that and please continue to bring as much joy as you can to the children of the world. Thank you for Ironman, Thor, Captain Marvel, Hulk, and all the rest. Thank you Robert Downey Jnr and thank you Chris Hemsworth for bringing Ironman and Thor to life. My kids absolutely worshipped you both."
"To Mark Ruffalo, Carla loved big friendly Hulk in Avengers Endgame, and thanks for your bits of that film that I was able to show her. Thank you to everyone involved in Frozen, special thanks to princesses Anna and Elsa, and also to a snowman called Olaf from our princess Carla. Carla my love, I had really hoped that we would be finally building that snowman this year. I’m so sorry. Thank you to whoever invented trampolines. You will never know the fun and enjoyment ours has brought Conor, Darragh, and Carla," he tearfully continued.
As he mourns his beloved children, he urged parents, who are still lucky to have their babies with them, to do what he wished he could have done. He doesn't want anyone else to suffer the kind of pain he is going through. Talking to Dublin Live, according to The Sun, "Conor, Darragh and Carla are adored. They all had beautiful, bright futures ahead of them with family, friends, and a community who love them. To all parents, cuddle your children whenever you get a chance, tell them how much you love them as often as you can, spend every spare minute with them reading, playing, and enjoying their wonderfulness. The future has now become our enemy but we will battle it every day to keep the memory of Conor, Darragh, and Carla alive.”
"Going back to an empty home... There are no words. There is only devastation, grief and anguish. Every breath is a struggle." And he had no choice but to go back to the place where he last saw them, still and pale. But he wasn't alone. His neighbors made sure that he knew he was cared for as they surrounded him with tributes and warmth, according to Dublin Live. One parent spoke to The Sun and said, “It was hard to see him being back because no-one quite knows what to say to him. What do you say to someone who has just lost his three children? He was very brave in going to Mass on Sunday and showed his bravery once again by returning to the family home. He went back to the place where his kids died and there aren’t too many people who could do this. The whole thing has been horrendous and everyone is just in a state of shock and disbelief."
His children's deaths are still under investigation and the mother's role during that time is unknown. But stories like these are reminders that however old your children may be, loving them profusely is important. Because one moment could change everything and it's that love that will count in the end. And to honor his children, the grieving father started a Youtube channel to share sweet clips of his kids during happier times.